Bishnupriya Manipuri Juggles Over Inter-Caste Marriage
Posted On Saturday, June 16, 2007 at at 09:10 by rk rishikesh sinha“We, Bishnupriya Manipuri, never accept inter caste marraige! Can somebody tell me the reason behind this? Because, I see people from other caste accepts the same. Even the Great Akbar did the same. Or, may be, since our caste is from a highly so called respected caste we can't do that?” reads the first scrap from an anonymous user in the Bishnupriya Manipuri community in the Google’s social networking site, Orkut.
And it triggered the dormant volcano slumbering in the minds of the youngsters of the Bishnupriya Manipuri to explode, in the forms of thoughts, logic, experience and sometimes venomously attacking personally and very often going out of the track.
Now, when the Bishnupriya Manipuri community is caught in a crossroad of self-identification and gradual death of their inherent culture all due to gust of development and progress taking place in and around them. It was quite natural receiving football of opinions from the users.
Shibu (orkut name) scrapped “Only if we really feel about our caste then one should think twice before committing to inter-caste marriage.” But there were others harbouring different view on it, for them “past is past” and it has no resemblance to the present impasse.
And on the issue of those people of this community who have married outside their language; Ranita scrapped, “I m not against inter-caste marriage, the only thing is that don't forget your roots and don't blame the community. I don't even understand where is the need for marriages from other castes when our community is having so many eligible bachelors and so many beautiful and well educated girls”.
It is not about that a Bishnupriya Manipuri girl or boy must marry from within their community, it is the parental love, livelihood and the heart calling that must be the determination factors, scrapped Sandeep. In response to Sandeep point of view, DEV scrapped, “how many examples can u show for a BM doing inter caste marriage and living peacefully with his parents”.
Dev point of view got solidified and a twist was given when Mysterious (orkut name) scrapped, “you need them (read the BM community) in your joy, sorrow, happiness, etc.You can’t just eat and live in this society alone...”.
Bouncing back Sandeep scraped it is not the marriage counts but it is the blood running in him that makes whether he is a BM or not. He cites with an example, “If I were your younger brother and I married a punjabi girl will u not give food to me nor talk to me....I will be the same for my parents and society”.
The flurry of scraps amongst the members dealt on each and every topic that could be accommodated under the sun with clarity, persuasions laden with facts and personal experience. The discussion tied down the community’s problems on education and unemployment in length. It was indeed a healthy discussion.
No doubt, all users were busy in putting across their point of view and they had their own share of mild infighting. But they were one in one point, I suppose, that they all feel proud and wish to bring a change in the lives of the people. They all want to kiss the sky in their own terms.
Though the discussion remained inconclusive but it also showed the maturity of our man accommodating opposite views.
And it triggered the dormant volcano slumbering in the minds of the youngsters of the Bishnupriya Manipuri to explode, in the forms of thoughts, logic, experience and sometimes venomously attacking personally and very often going out of the track.
Now, when the Bishnupriya Manipuri community is caught in a crossroad of self-identification and gradual death of their inherent culture all due to gust of development and progress taking place in and around them. It was quite natural receiving football of opinions from the users.
Shibu (orkut name) scrapped “Only if we really feel about our caste then one should think twice before committing to inter-caste marriage.” But there were others harbouring different view on it, for them “past is past” and it has no resemblance to the present impasse.
And on the issue of those people of this community who have married outside their language; Ranita scrapped, “I m not against inter-caste marriage, the only thing is that don't forget your roots and don't blame the community. I don't even understand where is the need for marriages from other castes when our community is having so many eligible bachelors and so many beautiful and well educated girls”.
It is not about that a Bishnupriya Manipuri girl or boy must marry from within their community, it is the parental love, livelihood and the heart calling that must be the determination factors, scrapped Sandeep. In response to Sandeep point of view, DEV scrapped, “how many examples can u show for a BM doing inter caste marriage and living peacefully with his parents”.
Dev point of view got solidified and a twist was given when Mysterious (orkut name) scrapped, “you need them (read the BM community) in your joy, sorrow, happiness, etc.You can’t just eat and live in this society alone...”.
Bouncing back Sandeep scraped it is not the marriage counts but it is the blood running in him that makes whether he is a BM or not. He cites with an example, “If I were your younger brother and I married a punjabi girl will u not give food to me nor talk to me....I will be the same for my parents and society”.
The flurry of scraps amongst the members dealt on each and every topic that could be accommodated under the sun with clarity, persuasions laden with facts and personal experience. The discussion tied down the community’s problems on education and unemployment in length. It was indeed a healthy discussion.
No doubt, all users were busy in putting across their point of view and they had their own share of mild infighting. But they were one in one point, I suppose, that they all feel proud and wish to bring a change in the lives of the people. They all want to kiss the sky in their own terms.
Though the discussion remained inconclusive but it also showed the maturity of our man accommodating opposite views.
Rishi you have summed up the whole issue in a very neat and proper way, and the conclusion is so nice...you have tried to give it a proper way, of what everybody wanted to tell about the issue but could not express and ended up having hard discussions and attacking personal issues....but to sum up its is well written and feel that every member of the BM community of ORKUT should go through it once....well written....wish you all success in life
What do you mean? If you love a boy from another community ,what's the problem??does this meant that our culture will go backward or our culture will be ashamed by doing this? Love doesnot mean that you have to wed only a man from your own community ,either you love that man or not ,it's the matter of two souls,it is love ,not a deal.My question is that why we can't? Any reason?? Why we should sacrifice our love and get married to that person which I don't choose ,which I don't love,how?only for the fake respect?,what's wrong in this ,can someone explain it to me please?
Can anyone explain it to me Please?
i really like this post about this topic. sometimes its hardening to sacrifice your love in front of community. i have seen people grow and flourish more when they are happy. And from the once a BM will always be a BM.